Some of us are probably glad to see the year end. Some might want to slam that mother shut, and nail it and board it for good measure.
But in the end, it doesn’t matter if the year ends with a whisper or a bang. It just matters that one ends it consciously. With mindfulness and reflection.
It’s a good time to do it. In between the sacred rituals of the holidays, and the glitter, sequins and excitement of the New Year, there is a pause. A space. It is a chance to catch our collective breath, and like a breath, it is there for us to draw new life.
This space is for soulful reflection, for a spiritual re-boot, for a conscious cleanse of the year.
Forget about losing 10 pounds in 2015. As hard as that might be, that’s the easy stuff. What about entering the year by losing that which did not serve you in 2014?
Maybe it’s a grudge. A jealous tendency. Or a relationship that soured.
It is different for each of us. Did you have a mindset of lack that kept you feeling constricted all year? Try losing that.
Did you make choices that disempowered you in work or in your relationships? Did you take the safe or easy way out when a little risk taking may have better served your growth in 2014?
Think about it. Now, while there is a quiet space, a pause between the ending and the beginning of the year, to consciously cleanse yourself of what is no longer working. What needs to go, shift or change so you can welcome this new year with wild abandon, an open heart and crazy, wild-eyed optimism?
Now, think about what you gained throughout the year. Did you grow wings, gain confidence, expand in a new direction? Did you save money, learn a new skill, or walk away with a new perspective after trying something different? Have you grown, improved, emotionally, spiritually or financially?
Take some time and figure it out. Sit with a journal and write it all down. Write what worked, what didn’t. Don’t judge, just write.
If you want, make a ritual of it. Buy a beautiful journal that is worthy of holding your dreams, your essence, and give yourself the gift of honest reflection. (My journal, featured above, was a Christmas gift from my son.)
Too much work, you say? I call bullshit on that. Do the work.
Then, and only then, once you have conciously considered 2014, the good, the bad, the ugly, can you effectively be cleansed and ready for a New Year.
So how do you want to feel in 2015? Happy? Vibrant? Creative? Peaceful? Adventurous? Courageous? Secure?
Why not set resolutions around these feelings? I’ve been reading material from a book called The Desire Map, by Danielle LaPorte. She talks about setting goals and resolutions that are focused on achieving the core “feelings” you wish to experience in your life. She believes that our search for accolades, money, recognition, security, are really about our quest to achieve the feelings these accomplishments bring to us.
With this in mind, I know this year I want to feel more creatively expressed. I want to feel vibrant. Spiritually directed. Nourished.
My choices and resolutions, in all areas of my life–work, relationships, health and well-being, community and spirituality–will center around these core feelings. I know this because I have looked at 2014, the blessings and the challenges, the accomplishments and the disappointments, and I know what I want. And what I don’t want to duplicate in 2015.
Now it’s your turn. Be brave. Be conscious. Be clear.
As the year ends, know that I wish you clarity and a Happy New Year!
Now, what about you? How do you want to feel this coming year? I’d love to hear your core desired feelings and resolutions!
If you’re interested in more thoughts on integrity, compassion and grace–if you’re looking for exploratory questions to unearth pieces of your soul, check out my book Tao Flashes. Or visit me at http://www.facebook.com/taoflashes or on twitter @taoflashes